Healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and clear communication. When people can talk openly and listen to one another with care, they feel more connected and supported. When communication breaks down, it can lead to confusion, hurt feelings, or emotional distance.

We know that everyone communicates differently—and that’s okay. Whether seeking support for yourself or working through challenges with a partner, New Directions Mental Health is here to help. Our team offers individualized care and couples therapy to support stronger relationships and mental well-being.

Why communication in relationships matters

Communication in relationships is about more than words. It’s the way we express thoughts, feelings, needs, and boundaries. It also includes how we respond to others through words and actions.

When communication is healthy, people are more likely to:

• Understand each other’s feelings and needs
• Solve issues together
• Build trust and feel emotionally safe

Poor communication can cause lasting problems. When someone feels ignored, judged, or misunderstood, it becomes harder to stay connected, which can damage the relationship over time.

Recognizing toxic behaviors

Sometimes, unhealthy or toxic behaviors make it harder for two people to communicate respectfully. These behaviors can cause emotional harm and create barriers to a healthy connection.

Examples of toxic behaviors include:

• Interrupting or ignoring the other person when they’re speaking
• Using insults, blame, or guilt to control the conversation
• Refusing to speak during conflict (known as the silent treatment)
• Controlling what the other person says, thinks, or does

These behaviors can create ongoing emotional strain and may impact a person’s sense of safety and trust in the relationship. Recognizing and addressing toxic behaviors is important to building healthier, more respectful connections. However, a change in a relationship requires effort from everyone involved. If the other person is unwilling to take responsibility for their actions or engage in that process, improving the relationship may not be possible.

Building healthy communication habits

Strong communication doesn’t mean people always agree or avoid conflict. It means they can speak and listen with respect, even during challenging moments.

Here are four communication habits that can strengthen and support healthy relationships:

1. Use “I” statements to express yourself

Use “I” statements to express your feelings and experiences without placing blame. For example, say, “I feel worried when plans change last minute,” instead of “You always change plans without thinking about me.” This encourages empathy and helps the other person understand your perspective without feeling attacked.

2. Practice active listening

Listening is as important as speaking. When someone talks, focus on the person’s words instead of planning your response or interrupting. Active listening means giving full attention, valuing their words, and avoiding distractions. This builds trust and leads to better conversations.

3. Take breaks during heated moments

Sometimes emotions run high, making communication tough. If a conversation gets too intense, take a break. Stepping away gives both sides time to cool off and return with a clearer mindset, reducing the chance of saying something hurtful.

4. Ask questions and clarify

To avoid misunderstandings, ask questions to understand the other person’s point of view fully. Repeat back what you heard to confirm, like, “So, you’d prefer if we planned things further in advance—is that right?” This clarifies their perspective and shows you’re genuinely engaged.

By practicing these habits, you can create stronger, healthier relationships built on mutual respect and understanding.

When to consider couples therapy

Even with effort and good intentions, some people struggle to communicate in healthy ways. Couples therapy can be helpful for those who want to improve how they connect and communicate. In therapy, a mental health provider guides both people in learning new tools and strategies in a safe space.

Couples therapy may help when:

• Conversations often turn into arguments
• One or both people feel misunderstood
• Trust has been hurt and needs to be rebuilt
• Big changes are causing stress in the relationship

However, therapy may not be appropriate for every situation. If a relationship involves emotional, physical, or verbal abuse—or serious power imbalances—it may not be a safe setting for couples therapy. In those cases, individual support is often a better choice.

Contact New Directions Mental Health for support in improving communication within your relationships

Healthy communication in relationships is key to emotional safety, trust, and connection. Whether you’re dating, married, or part of a family or friendship, your words and actions matter. Working on how you communicate can lead to stronger relationships and better mental health.

If you’re noticing ongoing challenges or patterns that feel unhealthy, support is available. Talking with a therapist can help you understand what’s happening in your relationship and how to move forward in a healthier way. Call New Directions Mental Health at 724.374.7414 to connect with a therapist specializing in relationships and communication.

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